Almost everyone knows the saying “The point of view depends on the point of the seat.”. Is it true or false? How can your beliefs influence your reality?
Perception of the world is different for everyone. All what you see and all what you hear goes through your filters called beliefs or convictions. They are hard to be recognized and very often they are considered as reality. People have tens or hundreds beliefs and usually they don’t even realize it. There are positive and negative beliefs. Unfortunately, people have more negative ones.
If you think that you can’t earn big money or that rich people are thieves, you won’t be able to earn money. If you think that learning is hard and exhausting, you will have troubles with studying. The same correlation refers to every aspect of your life.
If you want to check whether your convictions are correct, you can try to use Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). It states that your reactions (fear, anxiety, anger, sorrow) are caused by your convictions and not by any event by itself. Below you will find 5 questions which you should ask yourself:
- Is this belief based on facts?
- Does this belief protect my health and life?
- Does this belief help me achieve short-term or long-term goals?
- Does this belief help me resolve conflicts or avoid them?
- Does this belief help me feel as I would like to feel?
If at least 3 answers are positive, your conviction is beneficial for you. Otherwise it is not.
The other thing you can do is to write down your convictions and then just deny them. You can find examples of people who has done something what would imply that your conviction is not true. You should find as many such proofs as possible.
Furthermore you can think what kind of person is someone who has such wrong convictions and what kind of person you’d like to become.